In his impactful presentations, Mr. Tromans highlighted that the truth about “bullying”, it is an issue that affects many of us—directly or indirectly. From playgrounds to parliament, our homes to our phones, Bullying comes in many forms. It can be obvious, like physical fights or name-calling. But it can also be subtle: things like excluding someone from a group, spreading rumours, or saying hurtful things online where you think it “doesn’t count.” The truth is, every one of these actions has real consequences. When we talk about being united against bullying, we mean taking a stand against all these forms. 

Bullying is often rooted in fear, frustration, or misunderstanding. Sometimes, people bully others because they’re going through tough things themselves, or maybe they feel powerless, and hurting others gives them a sense of control. But none of this makes bullying acceptable. Whatever the reason, we each have a choice: we can make things better, or we can make them worse. 

It’s important to realise that stopping bullying isn’t just about stopping a fight or calling out a mean comment online. It’s about creating a culture and a community, where everyone feels safe, valued, and respected. When we choose to be united against bullying, when we choose to respect each other, we’re creating that community together. This doesn’t mean everyone will be best friends, but it does mean that everyone deserves to feel like they belong.

One of the best ways we can choose respect is by becoming ‘upstanders’ instead of ‘bystanders’. If we see bullying, we have a choice, we can look the other way, laugh along, or even join in, or we can step in to support the person being targeted. Being an upstander doesn’t necessarily mean confronting a bully directly—it can be as simple as reaching out to someone who was hurt, letting them know they’re not alone, and reporting the situation to someone who can help. Every one of us has the power to be that person.

When individuals make an effort to understand, empathise with, and genuinely connect with one another, it can create a ripple effect that fosters a more respectful, caring society. Imagine a world where respect and kindness thrives — it’s not just a dream, it's in the choices we make.  Together, we can make a difference.

If you feel like you are suffering from bullying, or you think that someone else is being bullied, it is vital that you let someone know. At school you can speak to your form tutor, your PSA, your HOY, the safeguarding team, the school counsellor or any other trusted adult that you can confide in. It will be taken seriously, and you will be supported. There’s no shame in asking for support, and no one should feel they have to go through hard times alone.